Mum shares ‘code’ she uses with son on text that all parents should know about


Parenting comes with its own unique set of challenges – but so does childhood. Children can find themselves in uncomfortable situations simply because they don’t know how to set boundaries. But wanting to make her child’s life easier, a mum has shared the ‘secret code’ she uses with her son to help him get out of commitments he no longer wants to take part in.

She explained how her son was meant to be staying the night at a friend’s house – but changed his mind about the idea during the course of the evening. The mum said on Reddit : “My kid just texted me a hotdog emoji. It’s code for ‘I want to come home but I want it to be your fault’. Any random emoji when we’re not texting each other will work.

“He was supposed to be staying the night with a friend, so I was concerned when I get this text after I’ve already gone to bed.

“I called him and told him ‘you were supposed to unload the dishwasher before you left, now you’ve lost your privilege of spending the night. I’ll be there in five minutes, have your stuff gathered up’.”

When her son got in the car, she asked him why he had a sudden change of heart.

“He said his friend’s grandpa was making him feel uncomfortable. He didn’t know how to tell the friend he wanted to leave,” she added.

“He thanked me for getting him out of there. He said it wasn’t anything bad, grandpa was just acting weird.”

The woman’s post has been upvoted about 8,200 times and has received more than 250 comment from parents saying they intend to use this ‘secret code’ with their children.

One user said: “While I’m sorry that he was in an uncomfortable situation in the first place, I’m so glad that you had a system in place beforehand and he used his Spidey sense to tell him that it was time to get up out of that situation. Smart kid!

“My daughter is nine and we’ve told her that if she ever feels uncomfortable, she can say that she isn’t feeling well and we will come get her.”

Another user added: “Our code was ‘the hamster needs to be fed’, I did call my parents once and used it when I thought a sleepover was weird, they picked me up, no questions asked.”

A third user said: “This is great. Glad to have some additional ideas for what to do with my kids.”